Yesterday, there was a less festive f2f when a few of us paid a shiva call to Rickismom. Ricki had passed away in her sleep just the day after I had mentioned a get-together on facebook.
This was not quite the f2f I had been thinking of, but it was very, very special.
A few months ago a friend of mine, a non-blogger who reads this blog, mentioned that there's one blogger she'd really like to meet in person and that's rickismom. Many of us have always felt that way.
Beneath the Wings This blog is basically a diary, journal, and notes of observations. It deals mostly with the topics of special needs, especially a real view of what life is like with (and for) a teen with Down syndrome. Additional topics are interpersonal relationships, life in Israel, and dieting. Also an occasional get-on-a-soapbox-and-tell-it-like-it-is personal opinion.
Yesterday, under very difficult conditions I met her. Hannah, A Mother in Israel, another fb friend and I went together to לנחם linachem, to comfort Rickismom, and we received so much more. Meeting her in person was an amazing experience. We were also lucky enough to be there at the same time as an Ezer Mitzion worker who told us how much Rickismom has done for other parents of Down Syndrome children. None of it surprised us. Reading the posts on her blog made it clear how modest she is.
I generally don't go to shiva, mourning homes when I'm not personally acquainted with the mourners or the dead, but I didn't feel that sort of apprehension that maybe I'm being presumptuous in visiting a stranger who doesn't want voyeurs invading her private moments. My feelings about rickismom were confirmed when she told me that she recognized me immediately. I didn't need to introduce myself.
I've been blogging a very long time, and among us jbloggers there are f2f and cyber only relationships. Many of these relationships are very strong. We're a community, and sometimes it's good to meet up in person, even at the saddest of times.