Well, I must tell you something very important that you might not know. And those who didn't know that side of me probably think that I'm exaggerating, but I'm not. I used to be an awfully mean, easy to anger person. That was for many reasons; one being the result of emotional abuse, a condition I only heard of close to middle-age.
A lot of you ladies, and the hardy men who are still reading, probably can guess the other reasons...
Even before my hormones began to depart I started to try to correct/change my behavior. At least, as per the Jewish Laws of Teshuva, Repentance, stage one was to recognize that I had a problem, a very serious one. My angry, hysterical reactions to all sorts of things over most of my life did a lot of damage to me and others.
I hadn't realized how much I had changed until the other night. I was dressed in nice, new for me clothes, attending a social event, when a neighbor splattered a ton of reddish salad dressing all over my light-colored wool jacket and pale beige cotton skirt. I looked at the damage and felt nothing. No uncontrollable wave of anger surged through my system. I told her that it was OK, only clothes. She was so grateful. I tried to explain that "the new me" had been reacting. The "old me" would have killed her.
I told her that I have been working on changing myself for a very long time.
Another neighbor "tasted" the dressing, gave me laundering instructions and sent me home to change and wash it immediately. I was so mellow, that I would have just sat there all dirty. After putting the skirt in the washing machine and spot-cleaning the jacket, I returned to the party in different clothes.
Ladies, being post-menopause is something to look forward to! I like the "new me."