What's "bli neder?" It means that I'm not promising; it's not an oath. I'll just do my best.
We really have to be careful about our words. Words have so much power.
I'll never forget that when we went to the states for a visit when the oldest was four. Her birthday is in July, and she had a party in gan nursery school before left. The relatives in New York wanted to make her a party, but I told them that she understood that she'd be five at her next birthday. That's what she had been focusing on.
"Next year I'll be five."For little kids, time is vague. A month can be a year. So I didn't want to confuse her. She didn't have a "party," but the kids (then there were just two) got lots of presents every time people came to see them.