"Just Call Me Chaviva" blogged about how she's adjusting to a very specific aspect of life as a properly married religious Jewish woman, covering her hair.
Here's my comment:
OK, I've been covering my hair all my married life, yes, before you guys were born. I always hated my hair. It demanded lots of work, so it's a great freedom to cover it. The trick for you would be to have it cut in a frum place where it won't be all gussied up for view.There is such an enormous variety of "accepted*" ways of covering/hiding/tying a married woman's hair in public**. Bli neder (this is not a vow/oath) I'd love to do a pictorial post on it. When I got married, forty years ago last June, there were two and a half acceptable ways to cover one's hair. You could get a wig, which was supposed to look very "natural," or you wore a hat or scarf. In those days there were special scarves, prefolded with a piece of foam sewn in to give it some "bulk." The question then was how much hair did you show, bangs, braid, actual hair-do, etc.
I haven't had a "to show" haircut since the day I got married. Over the years, I've been the one to chop off my hair. The less than a dozen times I paid a "professional" were rarely worth the money. Actually, for practical and halachic (Jewish Law) reasons I think it's best to cover your hair in a way that nobody can really tell how good a haircut you've gotten.
According to Jewish Law, a married woman's hair shouldn't be an "attention-getter." Ok you may say that an awful home hair-chopping does attract the eye. I like to hide the "ends," meaning no cute hat perched on a nicely styled cut.
Nice hats and scarves do cost money. A good haircut costs money, so why pay for both? I'd rather invest in the "right" hats and scarves, styles to be changed instantaneously at will.
Nu, why not a wig? I answered that question in HIDE and SEEK: Jewish Women and Hair Covering. But if I was a wig-wearer, for sure by this time in my married life, I'd make it fun and not hide it.
*not accepted by all but with some sort of Torah-rabbinic backing
**in some circles the "in public" is emphasized and a married woman's hair isn't covered, hidden, tied up in her own home, even when non-family members are there